Men learn what works and what doesn't through the scientific method, which is essentially a disciplined trial-and-error approach.
His only way through is to test, measure the results and adjust based on results. Because men are designed to fight in order to survive they have a tendency to create a fight even when one doesn't exist. This can appear irrational in their approach when they're simply being fed by the challenge they're manufacturing for themselves.
It actually becomes counter productive to give advice that goes against
their intention because it creates a stronger response to generate
proof that they're right or the world is unfair to them, even when there
is no evidence and the story of the perceived injustice is falling
apart.
Men are strengthened by pressure not support, so attempting to dissuade them will almost always generate more resolve.
If you feel a man is off in his idea or approach, the best response is no response, as anything unsupportive actually generates more intention and energy in the direction he's already going.
Consider a polarizing figure on any divisive topic - it's not support that feeds their energy, it's those who argue against them that wind up their fight and whip up their resolve.
To remove energy from an intention, the best strategy is to give it no attention or attempted advice. Walk away and leave them to fight with them self until their energy is spent and they have the wisdom to seek council.
Even then, share it simply, concisely and move on until the evidence of their actions demonstrates commitment to the path of truth vs the thrill of manufacturing resistance.
There are boys, guys, dudes, and blokes... and then there are those who are men.
.
Here's to the man who cherishes his woman, who makes her feel safe, loved and secure.
.
Here's to the man who takes responsibility and does what is right rather than playing it safe or taking the easy way.
.
Here's to the man who knows what's important; strength, passion, honor, kindness, loyalty, respect and commitment to relationships and personal responsibility.
.
Here's to the man who isn't afraid to love, the man who will fight valiantly, but can graciously admit when he's wrong.
.
Here's to the man who is both respectful and responsible, who understands that his actions are more important than promises and that the trust of a woman is dependent on him keeping his word.
.
Here's to the man who is worthy of the title; whose strength is in his gentleness, whose power comes from his vulnerability, and who inspires loyalty through the consistency of his actions.
Men are strengthened by pressure not support, so attempting to dissuade them will almost always generate more resolve.
If you feel a man is off in his idea or approach, the best response is no response, as anything unsupportive actually generates more intention and energy in the direction he's already going.
Consider a polarizing figure on any divisive topic - it's not support that feeds their energy, it's those who argue against them that wind up their fight and whip up their resolve.
To remove energy from an intention, the best strategy is to give it no attention or attempted advice. Walk away and leave them to fight with them self until their energy is spent and they have the wisdom to seek council.
Even then, share it simply, concisely and move on until the evidence of their actions demonstrates commitment to the path of truth vs the thrill of manufacturing resistance.
There are boys, guys, dudes, and blokes... and then there are those who are men.
.
Here's to the man who cherishes his woman, who makes her feel safe, loved and secure.
.
Here's to the man who takes responsibility and does what is right rather than playing it safe or taking the easy way.
.
Here's to the man who knows what's important; strength, passion, honor, kindness, loyalty, respect and commitment to relationships and personal responsibility.
.
Here's to the man who isn't afraid to love, the man who will fight valiantly, but can graciously admit when he's wrong.
.
Here's to the man who is both respectful and responsible, who understands that his actions are more important than promises and that the trust of a woman is dependent on him keeping his word.
.
Here's to the man who is worthy of the title; whose strength is in his gentleness, whose power comes from his vulnerability, and who inspires loyalty through the consistency of his actions.
No comments:
Post a Comment