ARE YOU THE ONE WHO ALWAYS LOVES MORE?

ARE YOU THE ONE WHO ALWAYS LOVES MORE?
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"I've always had the point of view that I love too easily, and too much. I never mastered the art of holding back on the immense love I have inside me. I have always fallen in love quickly, and readily given everything I have inside me to my new love interest (friend or lover) I knew that I should probably hold back, protect my heart more, not wear it on my sleeve as much. But saying and doing were two different things altogether."
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"It was like a tap that once turned on, only had one speed - intense. Now in no way was I pathetic and needy, that's never been my style. But I would give and give and not ask for anything in return. I would bend over backwards to please and go out of my way to make things special, for the other person. I would put my own needs aside and give theirs priority."
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"This resulted in me feeling more and more unhappy, unsettled and emotional. Not honouring myself, not taking time out to recharge in a way that I needed and not being true to who I am, all took their toll. And I was just setting it all up myself, showing them how to treat me and digging my own hole. Yet every single time, I would be surprised when they weren't as giving as me, as loyal as me, as loving as me."
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"Finally, I've taken the time to work on myself, understand myself more and truly value myself. Now I have a much stronger awareness of who I really am, how I function and what I will and won't accept."
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"I still love with all my big heart, but I make sure that love fills up my tank first. I show myself the caring, nurturing and kindness I would to a lover. The love never runs out, the overflow is more than enough for me to share with the ones I love, and the ones I have yet to love." Jacqui
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It's so easy for women to love; it's a gate that's designed to open naturally, but the love gate is one that is too often wide open because it's easier to love and hope than it is to require that people demonstrate that people are worthy of big love.
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We love big without expectations when we're afraid of being able to consistently meet those standards ourselves. When we don't keep our own commitments or set intentions and then don't follow through we feel we're not congruent enough to have high expectations of others.
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We begin attracting the kinds of relationships we desire as if switch was flipped when we make the breakthrough to keeping our promises to ourselves and following through on our intentions, even when it's hard.
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Being stuck and not attracting the relationships we want is a result of being stuck in our story of guilt and shame. This is always attached to the past where the message we were led to believe was that we weren't enough or that we were too much. That belief is the barrier we need loving mirrors, people who see the greatness in us, support us with.
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Choose the mentor you feel safe going deep with, do the internal work and step through to the other side. You'll want someone by your side whose been down the path before you, but there's no story that's too impossible to get to the other side of.
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If you're ready to make that journey,